Repeated Reminder for self

Anger Management
Anger Management
Anger Management
Anger Management
Anger Management
Anger Management


I need to keep reminding this to myself over and over again. 
I  almost need a non-stop playe in my ears repeating "control control your anger"
*Yes I am THAT bad*
I do need to remind myself.

Its not that I get angry at everyone and everything. But I do loose my temper pretty soon. I am way too short-tempered esp for my family. Its terribly sad that they have to bear the brunt of my temper. :(

I am letting it out all here to give myself a harder blow to do something about it.

Perhaps it will hit me harder this way.

I will keep reminding mysefl till the day someone points out a change in me in that aspect.

I HAVE TO HAVE TO HAVE TO work on it.

Dosti

Read it online while general surfing and its on mind ever since.
What a thought!
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DOSTI BHI BECHI

Thodi-Thodi Sanso K Liye,
Humne Zindagi Bechi,
Parchhaiyon Se Tang Aa K,
Humne Roshni Bechi,
Aankho Mein Bas Aansu Hi Reh Gaye,
Varna Duniawalon Ne To Dosti Bhi Bechi…

- Amrit Raj Chouhan

source: http://www.shayarism.com/dosti-shayari/

7-Days to Self-Improvement - DAY 2

7-Days to Self-Improvement

Want to know what it is" Check out here!

DAY2

Homemaker tasks : This is another part which needs special attention. Need to do a lot of work around the house - normal usual everyday work which i keep ignoring or postponing or just not doing well. Reasons being anything ranging from laziness to tiredness to lack of time to every other possible reason you can think of. *Oh i am suddenly drowing under the huge load of guilt*

So Target for this week : Iron that moutain high pile of clothes lying on the couch in the bedroom *Yes its that bad*

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DAY 1 : Anger Management

7-Days to Self-Improvement - DAY 1

We all have a particular bahavioural pattern. We all have habits. And we all have ways of dealing with and reacting to situations. All through our lives we stick to the idea of proving we are doing the right thing. How we behave is the right way and should not be crticized. (i would somehow not believe it if someone says they accept criticism for their behaviour very openly and change as per the feedback) Though we might accept the critism openly - we usually do not implement the change easily.

But one thing is for sure - if we get a reaction repeatedly for our bahaviour or some habit, sooner or later we would be unconciously forced to think about making a change. And ofcourse I am not an exception to that.

This morning I had this sudden brainwave and I got the brilliant idea of doing something for myself. Ofcourse anyone else wanting to do the same and joining me is more than welcome. I want to bring about changes to certain aspects of my behaviour because - how so ever right and correct i think my habits might be - the truth is they are not taken positively by people around me. And some of the people around me matter a lot more than sticking on to my way of dealing and reacting. So I have decided to pen down one thing everyday for coming 7 days and try to improve or change it.

7-Days to Self-Improvement

DAY 1

ANGER MANAGEMENT : I need to work on this on urgent basis. This was one of the resolutions for th year too. Did good for few months in th beginnning and worse than ever now. It needs control on URGENT and IMPORTANT basis now. (Yes i am repeating that to myself to let it sink in)

I make a promise to myself that for coming 7 days i will NOT get angry at my daughter and husband for whetever the reason. No reason is big enough to do so. Whether the sky falls or earth sinks - i will NOT scream or get angry.

PS: If you would like to join me in this - feel free to use the image as a badge. I just created it myself to keep it all peppy and jolly in the process of self improvement.

And pls leave a message if you are joining me on this journey.

Connections on the way

It was few days back when I was reading the book -Tuesdays with Morrie by Mitch Albom.

I was standing near the door in metro on my way to work. I was completely engrossed in reading. Obvisouly there were lot of people standing around. Suddenly the man(around the age of 50 or so) standing next to me pointed that my bookmark had fallen down. I thanked him and picked it up. 

Here is how the conversation went after that...


Man - Are you liking the book you are reading?
Me : Oh yes - its quite nice and thought provoking.
Man : Yes i agree - I have lots of memories attached to this book. I have gone through similar experience.
Me : Oh Ok. *Smile* (Didn't know what else to say)
Man : This was the last book i read with my father. We had seen the movie together but had been wanting to read the book too. So we read it together in his last days.
Me : Oh ok. (Again I didn't know what else to say)
Man :  Infact I have helped many people after i read the book. It has lots of learn from.
Me : Yes indeed. Lots of lessons for life. And lots to ponder. Every sentence needs attention.
Man : Yes. I have read it many times and find new things each time. Lot of people have gained from that.
Me : umm...err...Is that somehow your profession or something? (I asked as he repeatedly mentioned he uses that to help people)
Man : Oh No no. I am a financial Analyst in a bank. The book has taught me so much that i have used that to help people around me. I just enjoy to share the thoughts.
Me : Ah. Thats very nice of you.
 *Meanwhile the last stop of metro was there and we had to get down to continue our journeys in our chosen directions*


Me : It was nice meeting you. Have a nice day.

Man ; Yes same here. I hope you like the book till the end and benifit from it as much as I did. Its worth every word. Have a nice day.


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The whole day after that I kept thinking about the incident from the morning. How little things connect people. How people have such strong emotions attached to things around which many of us just take too casually. How much effect books can have on people. How much people value words. How books can connect people.........


And so much more....


It was perhaps a small incident which happened days ago but i still think about it. It triggers some series of thoughts.


I don't know what it was. I surely had a deeper impact coupled with that from the book.

Friends as foes - CSAAM April 2012

Scene 1 : visiting friend's place for a get-together .. Ofcourse with family...kid in tow. "Friends" are well known. They dont meet everyday but still often enough and gladly. Kids also have company which makes it easier and comfortable.

Scene 2 : Adults chit-chat while kids play. All have food togther. Kids as usual throw some tantrums during dinner. So the host offers to feed guest's child too. He makes the little girl sit in his lap while he feeds her. Little girl tries to run away after a while but everyone pushes her to sit there and eat - ofcourse the whole focus being food. 

Scene 3 : all kids are told to go upstairs and play in kid's room there. The host escorts all kids up and carries that little girl while climbing stairs. The girl screams and does not want to be carried but everyone ignores. Afterall kids throw tantrums all the time. She is scolded and asked to be quiet and go upstairs with "uncle". 

Scene 4 : few hours have passed. Kids still upstairs - playing  The host has made few rounds to see if all is well up there and on every round picked or comforted little girl just generally asking if everything is fine. 

Scene 5 : Its time to call it a day. Shoes have been put on. Bye-byes being said.  Hugs & kisses shared. The host picks up little girl and hugs her tight. Also passes few kisses on her cheek. In return he asks her to give him a kiss too - "give me a kisss - a big juicy kiss"  The little girl has been struggling to get off from him. Refusing to say even a bye.  Parents of the little girl get little taken aback fir a split second by the "juicy kiss" request but ignore it. 

Day over and all back to their own usual lives.  

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Now who ever will read this will say oh I would be very vigilant and notice signs right from beginning. And that those parents were stupid to not do anything.  But in reality how many of us notice this and act on it. Our friends carrying our kids or helping our kids with things is all normal. We cannot go around doubting every person we meet esp close friends whom we meet so often. 

The idea is to keep your antennas working overtime. Notice every action. Don't ignore your child's reactions. Facts and figures show its mostly these close friends only who turn out to be our foes. 

Listen and try to give atleast second thought to your child's refusal to be carried or pampered by someone else even if its  family member. Respect child's decision ofcourse after analysing the situation and demand. 

Enemies  disguised as friends could scar & hurt a tiny life forever right infront of your eyes. Be alert, be open, be strong to deal with the situation. Don't be afraid of being judged. If a friend does not honour your child's safety as foremost, he/she is not a true friend. 

Together we can fight & create a safe future for our children. Let's join hands!

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Child Sexual Abuse Awareness Month – April 2012

It’s that time of the year again and the blogosphere is going ahead with Child Sexual Abuse Awareness Month – April 2012.


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