Misery of expectations

Expectations are like suicide by slow poisoning yourself. How much do we humans expect from each other. Every relationship we build is based on some expectations - conscious or unconscious. I am helping you with your problem so I expect you to help me out with mine. And more often than not this is the biggest cause for all the misery. 

Quite often when our expectations from others are not met we actually forget our real problem and get more affected by that instead. How could he/she do that! I expected you to help me. I expected you to be there and offer support. Etc. Etc. Etc. 

Unfortunately this happens in all the relationships we have. Expectations is the root cause of differences that make a relationship weak and drifting us apart. 

But is it wrong to expect something from your loved ones? Is it wrong to expect them to be there for you like you do for them? Is it wrong to expect? 

If i can offer something, why can't I expect that back? 

This confuses me and leaves me sad. 

Every time I face this I gather myself and believe I won't get affected anymore. But it hits harder every time. 

We humans cannot live without digging pits for ourselves. We love, we trust, we provide and we expect all this in return. And loose faith in relationships each time this is not met. 

Simplicity is surely not one of my virtues. I tend to complicate everything. And then find a reason to nag! 

Ah Life!

Goes on!

Perhaps!

Be Right

A little hug
In that moment of despair
Is it "I love you"
Or is it "I am sorry"?
A silent company
In the most troubling moment
Is it "I am with you"
Or is it "I have nothing to say"?
A cheer up message
In the saddest moment
Is it "am thinking about you"
Or is it "Get over it"?

Mixed emotions
Mixed behaviors
Is one more right than another
Or
Is one of them plain wrong?

Some make the heart cry
some make the head spin

Be a friend, a lover or life

Just be the reason the life feels right.

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© 2015 Life Begins. Please DO NOT COPY

Just A Letter.

Its just a letter. Addressed to no one in particular.

Only Because I felt like writing to someone but didn't know to whom. Names of some -  though few - of my closest and loveliest people came to my mind but considering how much i bug them already with my non-stop nonsense, it only made sense to spare them of this.

So if you ever read this - YES this is directed to YOU!
(And Yes i am sure you will understand its for you)

My dearest dearest you,

Life goes on...
We share some. We avoid some. We live some. And we regret some.
But no matter what we do and how we feel, it keeps going on!

And in this journey we miss out on tiny little smiles and tiny little "hellos".
It doesn't seem important.
We believe our loved ones know what we mean and feel. We don't feel its important to say a hello without any agenda in mind. We don't feel there is any need to let them know how much we love them just because we believe they know. How often do we drop a message telling them we miss them or are just thinking about them. Rarely! Just because we assume they know it. Or we just find it awkward to say so.

So today I am writing to you to say all that.

I Miss You!
More often than you can ever imagine. Everytime i watch something interesting I think about you. Everytime i make something nice, i want to show it to you. Everytime i listen to something which makes me smile or ponder, i want to tell you. Everytime i read anything new I think about you. Everytime i eat something and really like it, i want to send it over to you. Everytime i am sad and low I want you nearby. Everytime I feel like crying I want to be with you. Everytime I am happy and joyful I want to share it with you. No matter what - you are the one who comes to my mind and i want to share that moment with.

It's as simple and as complicated as that.

Quite often i feel like telling this to you but i am somehow scared of being judged as crazy and perhaps an emotional fool. Besides I don't want you to feel burdened because of how I feel.

I also want to tell you that I Love you! A Lot!

It's ironical that no one ever says that to me (I am not counting the times when I almost force people to say it to me...without actually giving them an option). I know you do love me but like someone said - sometimes I want an assurance in the form of words - written or spoken. To feel cared for and loved is a very basic emotional need of a human beings. It keeps us going.
So today i want to tell you that I love you and I care for you!

No matter how I behave at times, no matter how I seem to be - Remember and Believe that there's always love...abundant love! And no matter what - I will always be there for you.

Much love and countless smiles,
Me